Travel lesson 9: love evolves

Love, a term that exceeds the six letters that form it. Love is not static, it evolves with you and the person you're sharing love. Because hope you will never change dear husband or wife is like hope the sun ceases to shine, an impossible task. Why? Because a love affair growth and needs time and everything that grows changes.

Take for example a baby, in the beginning so vulnerable, pure, innocent and tender, and once he the world around him begins to understand, Changing these properties independence, authenticity and curiosity. These changes do not you like less of your child (I assume, as I have no personal experience with it, only knowledge). This only requires a different approach from you as a parent. So it works in love, at the beginning we only see the beautiful (baby)sides of our soul mates. She did not say anything for love is blind and that is good to note in the first phase, but after a while of living together and sharing we see that the other is just as human as we. That he or she has not completed, but still in development.

These developments create an exciting love affair, fun and challenging. You often see yourself in the other or even better, your partner enhances what you still need to learn and that can vary from patient to empathize. but often, not to say "always", it's all about one thing: communications. One of the first gifts that my husband gave me when we were still dating was the book: “Men are from Mars and women are from Venus.” How appropriate 🙂 at the beginning of your relationship, if he knew that I had not eaten cheese gender language. And working with women have not contributed to my knowledge of men's language, So he thought I needed urgent retraining. The book was very interesting and in my opinion a aanradertje for all couples who want to understand each other better. But besides all the theory it was time to put everything into practice because theory without practice leads nowhere. We had begun to bring two planets closer together without Venus lost his passion and temperament and Mars are rational and practical ability. Our world is perhaps the ultimate opportunity to test the accumulated skills since we 24 hour spend with each other. A dangerous experiment, you might say, because the way couples communicate with each other explains the basics of how your love life evolves. But spend a lot of time together and especially to discuss a variety of topics, We gradually learn to speak each other's language better and I mean no Spanish or Dutch, nee, each man- and female language. Now he knows for example that when I "yes" say "no" or "maybe" mean and I know when he says: "I'm hungry" that he should eat something quickly :). It's like traveling, you've chosen a destination but the journey towards it is still full of surprises.